How I Can Help
I can provide long term and short-term counselling and psychotherapy for people of all ages, including young people and couples.
Feelings such as shame, loss, anger, depression, anxiety, panic attacks, grief and confusion to name a few, can sometimes become too overwhelming to deal with on your own. Counselling offers you an opportunity to explore these feelings, to gain a better understanding, shift your attitude, and ultimately alter your behavioural patterns.
I am a compassionate counsellor who is not closely related to you, thus I can be objective. I can help you to gain a clearer perspective. In our sessions, we will explore aspects of your life, feelings, thoughts and behavioural patterns, in a free and open way that is rarely possible with friends and family. By listening attentively, I can begin to perceive the problems from your point of view. Together we can reflect on what’s going on for you, and gradually see things from a different perspective.
EXCUSES?
Money
Do you value yourself less than you deserve? Consider, for example, how much you spend on birthday presents or Christmas presents for others. Don’t you think you deserve one too and money spent on your wellbeing can never be wasted. Affording yourself therapy is the first step in recognising your worth. You may need to swap new pair of shoes or a meal out but the trade-off will pay off. Make a commitment to yourself: an enriching gift, the benefits of which will last a lifetime.
Too Busy
Miraculously, you will fine that the schedule you don’t think you can fit sessions into will become less arduous as you get rid of the clutter in your life. Through counseling, you will realise that you don’t have to be perfect. Just good enough.
Commitment
We all have choices and this is yours. You are in the driving seat; you can commit to one session or one year’s worth of sessions – it’s up to you. No pressure from me.
My issue is not that important…
We have all had varying degrees of nurturing and affirmation from our parents, which will ultimately affect how resourceful we are. Some of us have been lucky. Others not so lucky. After all, our parents have their own can of worms to deal with…
Imagine a large tin stored in a dark place at the back of your head. Into this tin you have stuffed some feelings of hurt, anxiety anger, hatred, fear etc that you are unable to acknowledge and some of them you are not even aware of. Even though you have firmly shut the lid, it will strain and cracks will appear: the feelings will seep through the cracks. If you don’t heed them and try to shove them back in again, they will burst through, maybe manifest as panic attacks, phobias or some other nasty followers. Much as you try, they won’t just go away. For example, you know your anger is disproportionate to the situation – you lost it today, hurled your pent up anger at someone who didn’t deserve it. Where did that outburst come from? Maybe misplaced anger?
You don’t have to do it alone. Counselling can help give you some insight, gently take a peek at what’s festering beneath there surface, beneath the lid. Counselling will help you to stop procrastinating if this is one of the patterns in your life. Putting things off just reinforces your disappointment with yourself, and enhances your lack of self worth. Your therapist can help you learn how to recognise whatever it is that is seething in your particular can of worms, to accept it, deal with it, move on from it…
You can be the master of your own destiny. You can claim your power back from others by taking responsibility for your own issues/decisions. No more the victim. The therapeutic relationship is unlike any other. For example, you may want to tell me things you have never told another person, but are worried about confidentiality. Worry not! Everything you tell your counsellor will remain within the room, unless he/she feel you or someone else is in danger,
You don’t have to do it alone. I can help you learn how to recognise whatever it is that is seething in your particular can of worms, to accept it, deal with it, move on from it…
Will counselling change me?
You can be the master of your own destiny. You can claim your power back from others by taking responsibility for your own issues/decisions.
Not now…
Therapy will help you to stop procrastinating if this is one of the patterns in your life. Putting things off just reinforces your disappointment with yourself, and enhances your lack of self worth.